There is a story that I love to read/tell about two monks walking down the road:
(I tell the story differently but here is the story I found through Google searching):
A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her.
The senior monk carried this woman on his shoulder, forded the river and let her down on the other bank. The junior monk was very upset, but said nothing.
They both were walking and senior monk noticed that his junior was suddenly silent and enquired “Is something the matter, you seem very upset?”
The junior monk replied, “As monks, we are not permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?”
The senior monk replied, “I left the woman a long time ago at the bank, however, you seem to be carrying her still.”
I love that this story perfectly embodies our thoughts after humble and compassionate action. We don't need to overthink kind and loving actions, and we have the choice to let go of the reasons why.
I do believe everything happens for a reason, and I humbly let it go as to the reasons why things happen (whether they be in loving or evil outcomes).
Little control do we have over most things that happen in the world; we should not stop in trying to be a loving force, but when things happen to us that we don't understand sometimes the more we push against and try to make meaning out of everything we get really caught up in our ego and get stressed out.
What resist persists; let the load of stress go - you'll feel better for it and have more present loving energy to give to the world.